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Sex assaults threaten military trust, Obama tells Naval graduates …

(CNN) A rash of sexual assaults in the armed forces undermines Americans confidence in the military, President Barack Obama told newly commissioned officers at the U.S . Naval Academy Friday.

Those who commit sexual assault are not only committing a crime, they threaten the trust and discipline that makes our military strong, Obama told the graduates, who were commissioned as Naval ensigns and Marine Corps second lieutenants.

That s why we have to be determined to stop these crimes . Because they have no place in the greatest military on Earth, Obama continued.

The president s remarks came amid mounting outrage over sexual abuse cases in the armed forces .

Figures show the rate of assaults in the armed forced increasing, and some top officers are under fire for condoning such acts.

At least two officers responsible for preventing sexual assault are under investigation for allegedly committing the types of act they were tasked with stopping.

Those factors have led to calls for major changes in how the armed forces handle sexual assaults . Obama has demanded his top military brass leave no stone overturned in their quest to prevent abuse, and members of Congress have introduced legislation that would make it easier for victims to get justice.

In his commencement address Friday, Obama characterized the U.S . military as one of the few institutions Americans still trust, but said incidents like sexual assaults, as well as other delinquency by servicemen in the field, could erode that faith.

Even in our military, we ve seen how the misconduct of some can have effects that ripple far and wide .

In our digital age, a single image from the battlefield of troops falling short of their standards can go viral and endanger our forces and undermine our efforts to achieve security and peace, Obama told the Naval Academy graduates, 206 of whom were women.

Earlier this month, the Department of Defense released figures estimating 26,000 cases of unwanted sexual contact occurred in 2012, a 35% jump from 2010 . Those cases ranged from groping to rape.

The vast majority of those incidents went unreported as crimes, the study showed.

Meanwhile, officers at bases across the country are under investigation for allegedly committing sexual assaults.

An Army sergeant first class assigned to the sexual assault prevention unit at Fort Hood, Texas, came under investigation in early May for alleged sexual assault, pandering, abusive sexual contact and maltreatment of subordinates . The military said he s been relieved of duty while investigators look in to the allegations.

Also in May, an Air Force officer who managed an assault prevention unit was charged with sexual battery and removed from duty .

He is accused of grabbing a woman and groping her buttocks and breasts in an Arlington County parking lot not far from his Washington office.

And this week, the Army said it had suspended Brig . Gen . Bryan Roberts, the top general at Fort Jackson in South Carolina, due to allegations of adultery and assault.

Fort Jackson is where most new Army recruits go through basic training, which includes training about sexual assault prevention.

The president traditionally delivers the commencement address at one of the military service academies every year .

In 2012 he spoke at the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs . The last time he delivered the commencement in Annapolis was 2009.

Vice President Joe Biden spoke last weekend at the Coast Guard Academy in Connecticut . Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel will speak Saturday at the U.S .

Military Academy at West Point, and also will address sexual assaults, according to a U.S . official.

Obama s remarks came the day after a much-anticipated speech in which the president spelled out a new phase of America s war on terror . He told the new officers Friday they are entering a military vastly changed from four years ago.

Just as you have changed in the past four years, so too have the challenges facing our military, he said, noting the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan were still being engaged when Friday s graduates entered the academy.

Even as we move beyond deploying our large ground armies abroad, we need to conduct precise targeted strikes against terrorists before they kill our citizens, Obama said .

Even as we stay vigilant in the face of terrorism, and stay true to our Constitution and values, we need to stay ready for the full range of threats.

Sex Ed and Men and the Marriage Bed : IgnitumToday

In all1 the discussions2 about abstinence3-only sex4 ed lately5 there is much talk about spit and water, licked ice cream cones, and tape that is no longer sticky. Obviously, as many other writers have already pointed out, that kind of abstinence-only sex ed leaves much to be desired, especially for the women who for one reason or another did have sex before marriage and, because of their formation, felt dirty and undesirable.

Fortunately that was not the sex ed I received6. In Protestant youth groups I did hear those things but I was also informed about sexually transmitted diseases and the difficulties of being an unwed, teen mother.

I was also told, over and over again throughout high school and college, about the beauty of sex, the power of married love, and the dignity I, and every man I d date, have as children of God. Perhaps the strongest message I heard was from my mom who told me she waited until she was married, that it was a good and unregrettable decision, and that she wanted me to do the same. This formation helped me make mostly good, chaste decisions and I felt well prepared for a realistic sex life once I was married.

However, the comparable sex ed received by many young Catholic men I know led to a different outcome.

They were also taught about the risks of premarital sex and had role models to encourage them to be chaste, pure, and to save sex for marriage. But along the way, as they were taught about the beauty of sex, the power of married love, and the dignity of every woman, they weren t really taught the healthiest and best way to deal with their natural sexual attraction to women.

They were warned that the woman they were dating might not end up being their wife and so they should help her preserve her purity and dignity, out of respect for her and the man she would marry.

They were encouraged to remember that the women they were attracted to were someone s sister, daughter, maybe even mother and that they shouldn t reduce her to a sexual object to ogle.

They were told they could control their urges, lusts, desires, and attractions by going to daily Mass and adoration, by running and lifting weights, and by the strengths provided by the rosary and frequent confession.

All of those lessons were good and the men stopped checking out girls, stopped looking at porn, and stopped having sex with their girlfriends. They learned the lessons and trained themselves to control themselves.

They reminded themselves over and over again that looking at women as objects and not people was wrong, desiring them lustfully was sinful, and having premarital sex with them was not okay.

Outside of marriage it seemed great, but once they were married problems surfaced. Each man soon found himself in a situation he had long awaited but now made him uneasy. There was a naked woman definitely somebody s sister, daughter, and granddaughter lying in front of him.

She was someone he loved and respected but she was also beautiful and even downright sexy. And there she was inviting him to look at her and then to come to bed, to touch her, and have sex with her. He knew that suddenly it was okay to do these things but it was so ingrained in him that he shouldn t look, desire, touch, and embrace that he was often riddled with guilt and confusion.

Many times these loving husbands would even turn away from their wives leaving the women feeling hurt, confused, unattractive, defective, and unwanted.

It turns out that what they were really telling themselves was looking at women and finding them attractive was wrong, desiring them in any way was sinful, and having sex with them was wrong.

The man felt dirty for wanting her and she felt dirty for presenting herself.

The beginning and the middle of these stories are very different from the stories of girls being told they d be like backwash-filled glasses of water but the ending is still the same.

It is a painful way to begin an otherwise holy, healthy marriage.

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Irondequoit native discusses #39Cooking Dirty#39 Epic's Hits

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Woman suing Salvation Army; claims sex abuse

A woman is suing The Salvation Army, claiming the organization moved a minister from Oahu to Maui after she reported he sexually abused her in the 1950s . Nancy Spencer’s lawsuit filed on Maui this week claims she was 11 when Maj . Richard Taba molested her .

She says her mother told The Salvation Army what happened and believed he had been terminated . But Spencer read in Taba’s obituary last year that he continued to serve as the Salvation Army’s chaplain on Maui for 40 years . A spokeswoman for The Salvation Army in California said Thursday the organization will try its best to investigate the allegations .

The lawsuit is possible because of a 2012 state law that suspends the statute of limitations for sex abuse cases until April 2014.

And so it starts – General Discussion and Dating Stories – Oasis …

The sheep drinking the kool-aid, as righteous statuses now start doing the rounds on social media about those horrors of human beings who murdered the soldier in London, and how if you show any ‘support’ for Muslims across the board in any way, you will be wiped from their friend list.

Please wipe me because I am sick to death of ignorant people who cannot think for themselves.

If we had to wipe friends because somebody of their faith committed an atrocity somewhere in the world, not a soul would have friend.

I just feel despair when I read all the dumbarse comments as they jump on the bandwagon.

Smooth or Crunchy? – General Discussion and Dating Stories …

I’ve always preferred crunchy peanut butter.

Bought a jar of smooth for my daughter to cook some peanut butter biscuits, and the recipe called for smooth.

I’ve just made myself some toast for breakfast and there are now THREE jars of smooth peanut butter in the pantry.

I have lost the battle somehow.

Whats For Dinner Tonight ! – General Discussion and Dating Stories …

We all have that thought at some time through the day everyday, what are we going to have for dinner tonight, it’s a pain and trying to please all, especially those with young kiddies and teenagers, let alone ourselves, so post what you think of whether it be pics, recipies, mums or nanna’s, your own recipies or something different….. !

As for me tonight……..I haven’t made my mind up yet :lol: !

Shakesville: The Army's Sexual Assault Problem, Here It Is

(Content note: military sexual trauma, rape culture, hostility to consent]

After nearly two years of requests from Stars and Stripes, the U.S . Army finally released the 28-page report of a task force convened to address the problems of sexual assault at Army installations in South Korea.

If you have the spoons, you may want to read the whole thing1, as it very thoroughly goes over the rape culture problem of the Army, many of which are familiar territory (i.e., survivors are afraid to speak out for fear of being disciplined themselves; there are insufficient numbers of female unit victim advocates, etc.)

The report particularly singles out problems in the leadership . It notes, for example, that sexual assault prevention isn’t taken seriously, but “perceived as a mandated check-the-block requirement to be quickly completed rather than training to a level of working knowledge.” In light of that, it is depressing but unsurprising that the task force’s findings also included the following (bold emphasis mine):

There is a lack of knowledge among leadership about how to handle reported sexual assaults .

The report implied that leaders, along with their subordinates, might not even be able to distinguish between consensual sex and sexual assault .

Questions remain about what constitutes consent, the draft said.

“Might not even be able to distinguish.” “Questions remain.” Sure.

And is the Army getting right on task with addressing the report’s findings ?

Well, not so much:

According to military officials at the time, the task force was initially scheduled to present its findings to the Eighth Army commander within a matter of months.

However, nearly two years later, Eighth Army officials say that the report has yet to be finalized and approved by leadership, even though some of the task force s recommendations, such as the installation of closed-circuit cameras in barracks, were enacted more than a year ago.

I have plumbed the depths of my vocabulary of profanities, and still I find no words for how contemptible this is.

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Jorge Rafael Videla: Death of a Dirty War criminal | The Economist

JORGE RAFAEL VIDELA, an Argentine former military dictator who ordered the torture, murder and disappearance of thousands of civilians during the country s seven-year military rule, died on May 17th in his prison cell on the edge of Buenos Aires, where he was serving a life sentence for crimes against humanity.

Dubbed the “Pink Panther” for his lanky frame and stealthy gait, Videla seized power in 1976 when left-wing militants, runaway inflation and corruption had begun to rattle Isabel Per n s civilian government. He said that military rule was necessary to protect national security and human rights. In power, however, he had a selective vision of who was entitled to such rights.

Not suspected leftists, certainly; nor anyone who did not ascribe to his totalitarian ideology. He viewed his mission as sacred, and those who disagreed with it as sinful enemies, says Federico Finchelstein, an Argentine historian at the New School university.

In what Videla called a process of national reorganisation , Argentines deemed threatening were kidnapped, imprisoned, tortured and killed. Suspects were snatched from their families, subjected to electric shocks, starved, beaten, raped, and held underwater for minutes at a time.

Others were pushed out of military aircraft into the River Plate or the Atlantic to drown. Abducted mothers were separated from their babies, who were sometimes adopted by the military officers responsible for their capture.

Videla cast his net wide, persecuting academics, journalists, students and social workers as well as leftist guerrillas. The opaqueness of the junta s reasoning made popular the phrase por algo ser , or it must have been for something , among Argentines trying to justify their own inaction.

Videla never admitted to sponsoring assassinations, referring only to disappearances .

In 1979, in response to a journalist s inquiry about the locations of the disappeared, he snapped: The disappeared are just that: disappeared. They are neither alive nor dead. They are disappeared.

The illusive nature of the victims meant that the military controlled their prisoners fate even in death, Mr Finchelstein says.

Videla retired in 1981. The following year his successors dragged Argentina into war with Britain over the Falkland Islands, a conflict that Argentina would lose in humiliating fashion. Defeat spelled the end of military rule.

In 1983, democracy was restored with the election of Ra l Alfons n and the country began to assess the extent of the destruction Videla had wrought. Official documentation put the number of dead at 9,000. Human-rights groups calculated that as many as 30,000 people had died in Videla s purges.

Repairing the psychological damage inflicted by the Dirty War has been even more difficult than obtaining credible estimates of its toll.

Mr Alfons n set up a tribunal that, in 1985, sentenced Videla and several of his henchmen to life sentences. Videla s sentence was annulled five years later by Carlos Menem, who believed that pardoning the junta and the leftist guerrilla commanders accused of terrorism would begin to rebuild the country in peace, in liberty and in justice . In 2006 a judge ruled the pardon unconstitutional.

Following a 2010 trial Videla, by then 84 years old, was again sentenced to life in prison.

For many Argentines, Videla s conviction and death have not brought closure. Although during his 2010 trial he assumed full military responsibility for the actions of the army in the war against terrorism , he was unrepentant about his crimes and died without revealing much about his shadowy rule. The Grandmothers of the Plaza de Mayo, a group of mothers and grandmothers with disappeared children, said of Videla s passing: We feel the weight of the fact that he didn t speak about or divulge the locations of the 30,000 people and 400 grandchildren that we look for even today.

As the search for the missing continues, Argentina is trying to move on from its dark, dirty past.

Adolfo P rez Esquivel, a human-rights activist who won a Nobel Prize for his organising efforts during Videla s dictatorship, wrote on his website: We don t forget, nor do we pardon.

But in contrast to him, we celebrate life, not death.

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Policeman's son broke into woman's home to steal knickers and …

Mark Cox, 22, who is appearing at court after allegedly breaking into a woman's house to steal her knickers and SEX TOYS

Mark Cox, 22, who is appearing at court after breaking into a woman s house to steal her knickers and SEX TOYS

A police officer s son with a bizarre underwear fetish broke into a woman s house to steal her knickers and SEX TOYS, a court heard.

Mark Cox, 22, pocketed a set of house keys belonging to former school pal Emma Pinches, 21, after going to a party at her home in February.

The hospital porter then used the keys to let himself in to the property while Emma was out to pinch her underwear and DILDOS.

Magistrates heard she became suspicious when items of lingerie and sex aids started to go missing over the next few weeks.

Prosecuting Julie Costello said: The day after the party the victim noticed a set of house keys were missing.

Over the next few days she started to notice that items of her underwear were going missing as well as her sex toys.

Emma suspected Cox may be responsible when she received a text from him in March to ask whether she would be out with her boyfriend that evening.

Police then searched Cox s home and found a large quantity of women s underwear, sex toys and lubricant.

When asked why he had a large sized bra he told them it was because he was a large size .

Officers also discovered CS gas spray as well as a police helmet, handcuffs, jacket and stab vest in his bedroom.

Cox claimed he had bought the police uniform items off eBay to use for kinky role-playing sex romps with his ex-girlfriend.

At Northampton Magistrates Court on Monday Cox pleaded guilty to two counts of burglary, one count of possessing a weapon designed for the discharge of CS gas and possessing a police uniform.

Defending Alistair Evans revealed his client had taken the items at a time when he was being driven by a fetish for women s underwear.

He said his client had bought the police uniform as memorabilia because his father and grandfather were both police officers.

He added: He accepts he had taken the items of underwear from the victim s house but there was no element of vandalism and he had caused no form of damage to the woman s house.

The CS spray was bought from a garage in France.

It has never been used.

The court was told Cox has since undergone counselling in a bid to overcome his underwear addiction.

He will be sentenced at Northampton Crown Court next month.

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