A Hemel Hempstead mum says taking part in a saucy TV documentary on sex toys may help her to become an ambassador for women.
Care assistant Kim Smith of Leverstock Green appeared on Channel 4 s Sex Toy Stories, in which she is part of a panel to design a new range of kinky bedroom equipment for high street erotica store Ann Summers. Before the show, Kim was one of a quarter of women in the UK who had never experienced an orgasm. In the programme, Kim reveals this may be down to her history of childhood abuse and difficult relationships.
The 47 year old said: I have been through a lot and I have always put other people before me, so this was a time to do something for myself. My world started becoming more important, and this was a part of my healing process. I have learnt to leave yesterday behind and look on to the future I am now addicted to myself and don t really need anybody else.
The hour-long documentary, which first aired on Thursday at 10pm, also featured playfully-nicknamed Kim O meeting with a fellow panel-member in Hemel Hempstead s The Marchmont Arms. Kim reveals that after her traumatic past, some perseverance with the toys led her to achieve her first orgasm. Kim said there have also been other benefits to being involved in the programme.
She added: It has made my relationship with my two daughters stronger. I used to shelter them from sex as I wanted to protect them, but now we are much more open and can share things. My eldest was really shocked at first, but they are both really proud of me.
It has also made me consider doing something different, as women have told me I should write a book about my experiences.
I hope I may be able to do that and become an ambassador for women who have come through hard times like I have.
There is life after all that.
Did we say psyched? Actress and A is For co-founder Martha Plimpton is beyond psyched for tonight s fundraiser at New York sex toy boutique Babeland. We know the comedians there will be sharing their sex toy stories for an important cause to highlight the connections between sexual freedom, choices about reproduction, and access to health care but it s hard for us to get in the partying mood when abortion is the end game.
After all of that nasty business with the Kermit Gosnell trial, someone has to put a happy face back on abortion.
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It’s Wednesday, so time for another installment of Intermet1! How long have you and Jeremy been together? We will have been dating for 3 years come July, and we got engaged after being together just over 2 years. Which online dating website did you use? We used OkCupid2 . I had used other sites in the past including Match.com3 and eHarmony4 . Those sites were good to get dates but they never really materialized into anything .
I had a flamed-out date tell me about OKC so I joined . I mean, it was free and acted just like Match.com5 ! I liked the format and there were some great guys on there (obviously). What was your worst experience in online dating? Ha !
Where to start ? I met one guy that, while we were making out, said, “I want to do you.” I stopped him and said, “Did you just say that?!” and he said, “Well I do.” Ha ! That was enough for me; I couldn’t believe someone would say that to me .
You can say I never saw him again! Do you tell people you met online ? If so, how do you do it? Yes we did . It was hard to come up with some sort of story so we just decided to be honest and tell people .
You would be surprised at how many people say they met someone online or knew someone who met online. Do you recommend online dating? Yes I would . Are there crazies out there ? Yes .
But there are tons of crazies everywhere…no matter if it’s online or not . I personally think online dating is better than just randomly finding someone at a bar (don’t do that!) . Why do I think that ?
The ball is in the girls’ court (which I liked) . Most guys are very respectful of the girls’ wishes/concerns/requests about where to meet . You can really scope out the guys before you meet someone .
You might still have a weirdo lurking around but more than likely, you have fished them out before you meet them . Thanks for telling us about your relationship, Kristyn ! Do you want to be featured in our Intermet’s Online Dating Success Stories series ?
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I love my husband of 20 years, but our sexual differences are putting a strain on our marriage. Ten years ago, he asked me to talk dirty to him about having sex with other men. It has progressed to him wanting to be a cuckold.
I only want to be with him, but he presses the issue by verbalizing cuckold situations during sex. This makes me close my eyes and shut down. By the time he is done, I have no desire to orgasm because I no longer feel attractive.
Worse, I feel like I am not enough for him. The only way he can get off is to talk about, think about or hear me talk about having sex with other men. It makes me feel worthless as a sex partner which is crazy, because I am attractive and open to a great deal of things (toys, games, dressing up, striptease, etc.).
I long for him to touch me, kiss me and look at me the way he used to. He is a good father and a good provider, and I love him. But this matter is crushing my self-esteem.
I won t stay much longer if this continues.Extremely Frustrated Female Experiencing Despair
Your husband was probably reading cuckolding blogs for years before he worked up the nerve to raise the subject, EFFED, and here s what he s gleaned: Husband brings it up, wife shoots it down, husband whines, wife agrees to explore it as fantasy only, and then one day after months or years of dirty talk wife announces she wants to give it a try. She winds up loving it, she says she regrets waiting so long, and husband lives happily ever after in cuckolded bliss. Reading so many cuckolding success stories many likely fictitious has left your husband convinced that if he just keeps at it, one day his wife will want to try it.Tell your husband in no uncertain terms that you don t want to hear about cuckolding anymore.
Period. He is free to think about whatever he wants to during sex, but he has to keep his cuckolding fantasies to himself. Wrap up the convo by informing him that from now on, your sex sessions end the moment the subject of you sleeping with other men is raised.
No more closing your eyes and waiting for him to finish. (And what kind of asshole can finish under those circumstances?) If he brings up other men, get off the bed, get out of the bedroom and go to the kitchen and have some ice cream. Your husband needs to find a new erotic script that works for you both. The incentive for him: Since you are open to many things, a fantasy scenario that turns you on is likely to become a reality scenario pretty quickly.Finally, cuckolds don t see their wives as unattractive.
Cuckolds see their wives as so desirable and so insatiable that they re incapable of giving their wives all of the sexual attention they deserve. But I can see why you re upset. You want sex to be about the two of you, about the intimacy you share (or used to share), and your inconsiderate husband is always running his mouth about people who aren t in the room.
It s understandable that you would feel like you re not enough for him after 10 years of this bullshit.
But your husband s cuckolding fantasies don t mean he finds you unattractive they mean the exact opposite.
It’s Wednesday, so time for another installment of Intermet1 ! Today, we’re continuing the success stories series with Ashley from Let’s Get Bananas!2 and her husband Joey . Check out this amazing wedding photo of them: Can we all just agree that they’re both stunningly gorgeous? !
My gosh! How long have you and Joey been together? We’ve been dating since December of 2010, got engaged in November 2011, and married in July 2012. Which online dating website did you use? What was your worst experience in online dating? The worst experience was weeding through all the messages I got on Match.com3 . I was contacted by so many people who obviously weren’t a match for me (Sar’s note: it’s ‘cuz you’re hot Ash) . None of my in-person dates were that awkward .
Some I just knew as soon as I sat down that it wasn’t going to work. Do you tell people you met online ? If so, how do you do it? In the beginning, I was very hesitant to tell people how we met . I used to always tell people we met at happy hour .
After we got engaged, I got over it . I used to be so worried that people would judge us since we met online, but I’ve definitely stopped worrying about that . Now if people ask us, we immediately say we met on Match.com4 .
Most people take about 30 seconds to let that process and then are very supportive and have lots of questions about it. Do you recommend online dating? I would highly recommend online dating ! It obviously worked for us (as well as lots of other couples we know) . Thanks for telling us about your relationship, Ashley !
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I m sure you re tired of seeing these, but I m just letting you know that we ll be taking a Stranger than Slash Fiction break starting now. Slash Fiction short stories will be updating throughout June and July while I move, and they ll likely spill into August while a friend of mine visits from overseas. These slash fiction short stories will very likely have more porn than plot, and they re probably more what you d expect in a typical gay sex story, so hopefully they ll still be to your taste!
There will be some recurring characters throughout the stories, but none of them are attached to a longer plot. As usual, if you would like to see more of the characters in the short stories, feel free to comment on the story telling me that! Also, a very small number of them may be broken into two updates!
If any Guest Writers submit short stories, they ll likely be mixed into this bunch. The Update Schedule page will be updated in detail once I get my ducks in a row next week.
- A knight fighting a siren
- An administrative assistant crushing on his sexually forward boss
- A budding journalist interviewing a typecasted actor desperate to do something new
- A dirty cop interrogating a burglar
- Stories with group sex
- Stories with sex toys and sex machines
- Stories with non-consensual sex
- Stories with voyeurism
Stranger than Slash Fiction s Return
Stranger than Slash Fiction will return in either August or September. I ll likely give you a heads up once it gets closer to its return.
I just want to make sure I m not scrambling to update it while juggling a lot of other things, and I don t want an episode to be interrupted with a short story.
I ve been feeling like the quality of Stranger than Slash Fiction keeps suffering because I m rushing, so I d prefer to just avoid putting myself in a situation where I ll continue to sacrifice the quality of the story due to my poor planning.&nsbp;
It’s Wednesday, so time for another installment of Intermet1 ! Just pointing this out: Chuck’s making a kissy face . Absolutely fabulous. How long have you and Chuck been dating? We started talking to each other in January 2012, but didn’t make things official until the middle of February .
I think we realized we were in love with each other in March; I knew that’s when I fell in love with him. Which online dating website did you use? What was your worst experience in online dating? The absolute worst experience I had was when I had a guy propose to me in his first message to me and continued to pressure me until I contacted OkCupid and informed them of his harassment . I think that’s when I started backing off the website . I was actually about to cancel my page when I got my first message from Chuck. Do you tell people you met online ?
If so, how do you do it? I don’t think I was ever shy about telling people I met Chuck online, he on the other hand would tell people that we met through a “close friend.” I even overheard him say that to a coworker that he wasn’t particularly close to. Do you recommend online dating? I definitely recommend online dating ! There are so many sites out there now, one for everyone . As long as they keep the Intermet tips in mind and go into it with an open mind, I don’t see why anyone couldn’t dip their toes in the dating pool on one of these sites. (Thanks for the shout out, Jaz!)2 I absolutely love their sense of humor !
Thanks for telling us about your relationship, Jaz ! Do you want to be featured in our Intermet’s Online Dating Success Stories series ? Leave a comment below (make sure you have an email attached to your name or comment!) or email Sarah for more information !
It’s Wednesday, so time for another installment of Intermet1 ! Today, we’re continuing the success stories series with Savanah from Savanah Smiles2 and her husband, John . Firstly, aren’t they a stunning couple? How long have you and John been together? John and I started dating at the end of March 2008 .
We dated almost 4 years before we got engaged and we got married this past December, just a few months before our 5 year dating anniversary. Which online dating website did you use? We used Match.com3 . I also had a profile on Yahoo personals, but rarely used it. What was your worst experience in online dating? I honestly didn’t have a bad experience with online dating . I went on a few other dates but none of them were terrible .
It was just with guys there weren’t connections with. Do you tell people you met online ? If so, how do you do it? Now, yes we tell people . The first year or so that we dated, I lied to a lot of people about how we met .
Even my mom didn’t know ! Once I realized that John and I were pretty serious, I finally had to come out and tell people . If it comes up in conversation now, it’s really easy to tell them how we met .
It’s definitely a lot more socially acceptable now than it was 5 years ago. Do you recommend online dating? Absolutely . Obviously we’re a success story and I can’t imagine my life without John . I think that if you haven’t found “the one,” you should definitely give it a shot .
Thanks for telling us about your relationship, Savanah ! Do you want to be featured in our Intermet’s Online Dating Success Stories series ? Leave a comment below or email Sarah for more information !
What s a Friday without a sweet story on Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson s sex life?
According to the most reliable newspaper gossip site of all time Kristen isn t holding tight and making drowsy with Robert anymore because the two are shacked up at her mom s house and they re too afraid to make any noise. Jesus Christ, are we back in high school or are Kristen and Rob more like Edward and Bella than they ever want to let on? Can they not get busy without ripping the shit out of pillows and trashing bedrooms?
Regardless, the no sex rule is taking a toll to say the least. They re living with Jules because she s going through a rough divorce from Kristen s dad John.
I d say Rob and Kristen are doing just fine without all the sex. Even with the alleged Rupert Sanders hook up2 the two have been near inseparable 3every since Rob came back from Australia and super affectionate. Kristen s actually letting Rob touch her in public4 now which has to be a huge step forward in their relationship.
I guess, considering the circumstances, she has to let him touch her in public since she s not letting him touch her in private but you get the idea. I m thinking they re solid and Kristen and Rob sex stories continue to be a good sell whether they are actually having sex or not!
What do you think? Is there a Kristen Stewart sex ban because of the Jules Stewart divorce?
The tabs are scraping the bottom of the barrel with this one .
Are Rob and Kristen (gasp!) not as exciting as they used to be?
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